calm in chaos
The first lesson I learned in Yoga Teacher Training was the
following:
- Yoga is all about you
- Yoga is all about non-attachment
To think of embarking on something that is all about me and
to let go of all the weight I carry with me daily is quite intimidating. Isn’t that selfish?
I’ve discovered that I have started to enter a selfish stage
in my life where I am placing my own
self as my top priority. Whether that is by allowing myself the time and
space to do what feels right, and to honor that, or by saying no to things so
as not to overextend myself. To be selfish doesn’t necessarily mean something
egotistic or negative. The root of the word is self – and if our self is not
whole, nothing else can be.
Self Love
Self Care
Self Reflection
Self Discovery
Self Worth
As we realize the value in caring for our self in every way,
the attachment to things, thoughts, people are no longer lifelines for us. We
slowly find our true self that is
not clouded by societal norms, traditions, or upbringing.
A recent conversation has left me pondering how we introduce
ourselves. In the moment where we are meant to express our truth, what we tend
to identify ourselves with is surprising.
Do we identify ourselves by our profession? I am a manager of an international program.
Or what we used to be? I
was a teacher.
Do we identify ourselves through someone else? I am Blake’s fiancé.
Or by what we have? I have a dog named Toro.
Or where we live? I
live in Portsmouth.
Or where we grew up? I’m
from Connecticut.
Do we identify ourselves through experience? I lived abroad and traveled for a few years.
Even more perplexing, when questioned, do we answer with the
negative?
What is your favorite music? I don’t like Country.
What type of food do you like? I’m not a fan of really spicy food.
What is your favorite candy? I hate licorice.
What do you want to do with your life? I don’t want a standard 9-5.
How often do we introduce ourselves by what we value? How we
feel? What we love?
My name is Amelia and I am stubborn, crave novelty, enjoy
the ritual of learning, feel lost sometimes, and believe love heals.
I’ve found that one must accept and embrace that first
lesson in order to be successful in the next: balance.
Yoga is also all about balance.
Effort and ease
Stillness and movement
Lifting and grounding
Strength and softness
Through opposition we find our solid base. We are able to
twist our bodies into an intricate bind but still feel our lungs expand in our
front and back body. We are able to fold forward but have an open chest. We are
able to fuel our internal fire and speed up our heart rate while having
controlled breath. We are able to be completely present in our practice but not
be attached. We are able to meditate through movement of our bodies.
When our pendulum swings to either extreme we are thrown off
course. In a weekend we can clean the house and complete every errand on
Saturday, but then never leave the couch on a Sunday. We try to solve all the
problems until we’re frustrated and exhausted and then resort to escapism and
recluse. There is that delicate, and sometimes fleeting, space in between the
two extremes where we need solid footing. When holding that space, we can
confidently straddle both worlds. We can be the attentive friend and also give
attention to ourselves. We nurture our creative dreams while still being
practical in society.
The abrupt shift in the seasons this year threw me off
kilter. It seems we are no longer eased through nature’s transitions so there
is no grace period of adapting. The
Indian summer gave us an extended Fall that peaked with a bizarrely chaotic
October, which exhausted my ability to find balance, and quickly led me into a
solemn start to November. My mantra lately has been to find calm in the chaos. The chaos of life is never-ending but we stay
afloat by holding on to the serenity. You will struggle to hold a balancing posture
in yoga without a drishti, a focal point. You will struggle to overcome the
chaos with out finding a moment of peace.
This is why yoga is a lifestyle. It teaches us how to
navigate this world after we step off our mats. However, to end a cycle of scheduling and compartmentalizing to create a holistic outlook of our existence is not achieved overnight – or in
a 200 hour yoga teacher training class. This twenty-something's journey of self-discovery just went
down a new road, and is far from over.
Light Heart. Light Spirit. Light Body. Light Mind.
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